“How To Build Social Self-Confidence
A person who does not go out often would most likely be a person who lacks self- confidence. It will be evident that you have little friends and are dependent on them to perform even simple tasks like asking for directions or using the ATM. You will most likely have a hard time getting by in your community so you will need to know on how to build social self- confidence.
Here are some tips you will need to learn on how to build social self- confidence.
Admit that you need help.
Admit to yourself that you need help in building your social self- confidence. Being depressed, having anxiety disorders or personality disorders depict a weak personality of a person. Despite social stigma of your mental health, it is wiser to seek professional help for enhanced coping. Surely when you admit that you need help, you will seek for help. Once you have sought for help, don’t be ashamed of your problem. You would want the people around you know that you have a problem so that they can help you. Besides, you are showing them that you have made a right decision in seeking professional help.
Don’t worry of what other people think of you.

Think of it this way so that paranoia won’t strike you, other people are too busy in their jobs, families and own self to think about ways to criticize you. So there is nothing to worry about what other people think of you.

Don’t be scared to be rejected.

A lot of thoughts may bother you into thinking not to interact with other people. You may think that you are going to be rejected. Thinking like that would only crush your self- confidence. Why don’t you just try to speak up and overcome the feeling of rejection? The answer would always be no if you don’t say whatever you wanted to others and how you want things to be. When saying what you want, address the person in a calm tone. You’re request or suggestions would most likely be accepted if you use a calm tone.

React positively to negative comments.

You suffer more if you sulk too much on negative comments thrown at you. Take negative comments as a constructive comment. Learn to deal with it, as you journey through you will get a lot of this kind of comments. If you can’t accept what is being said to you then you will have no room to mature.

If you are not able to socialize well with others, start joining small clubs that interest you. You would most likely meet people that you can talk to about your insights. Of course don’t forget to use these tips on how to build social self- confidence. In no time you can face others confidently.

Here are 10 positive thinking ideas to kick-start your year. They are just of a general nature and apply to a number of different situations and scenarios. They will help you to turn negative attitudes into positive thoughts that will hopefully allow you to change your outlook and realise a more positive outcome. I will add ten more next month and every month.

1. Only use positive words when talking. If you’re constantly telling yourself  “I can’t” you may convince yourself  that’s the truth. Replace these negative words with positive ones instead. Tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead.

2. Be constructive. Giving yourself cruel and unwarranted criticisms will not only put you in a bad mood it surely won’t help you improve either. Be constructive in your criticisms of yourself so you can grow and learn.

3. Associate yourself with those who think positively. Positivity is contagious, so find friends and family members who look on the bright side to surround yourself with.

4. Read an inspiring book. If you’re having trouble finding something inspiring about your life right now try getting inspired by the life of someone else by reading a book meant to inspire and uplift.

5. Fake it till you make it. One way to deal with a challenge is to create a feeling of confidence and happiness in yourself. At first this feeling might not be real, but over time you’ll start to actually feel happier and maybe even closer to your goal.

6. See the beauty in everything. Even if you’re in the worst mood, taking the time to look at all the beautiful things that surround you in the world can provide an instant and insightful way to lift your spirits.

7. Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. Don’t let negative thoughts and feelings overwhelm you when you’re feeling down. Even if it’s only for a few hours a day, push your negativity aside and only focus on the good things in your life.

8. Visualize a successful outcome. Sometimes it can be helpful to picture yourself completing a project successfully or getting the promotion you desire. This can encourage you and make you feel better about the situation.

9. Be glad your life isn’t boring. If nothing good or bad ever happened to you, likely you’d start to get pretty bored with your life. Take everything that is coming to you as a challenge and a way to keep yourself busy and interested in your life.

10. Watch your favorite sappy movie. Get a quick pick me up by watching your favorite movie or just your favorite scenes. You’ll get a smile or a laugh and forget whatever was getting you down.

Hope you find these tips inspiring and useful-more next month.