Fight On – So Many Problems in Life but Be Positive

When we turn on the television or just go to certain places, we see things that break our heart. It’s even most likely that we’re going through at least one of the major problems we hear of. Recession is one; money flow could be “not what it used to be.” Another could be war. A family member could very well be out there fighting for more than just our family. From big problems like that, to ones that revolve around our family, friends or jobs, each one of us has our own unique mix of challenges. No matter what the case you have, it’s true that there are so many problems in life, but be positive you can surely get through.

The Solution in People

Sometimes, it’s really quite a hard task to stay positive, especially when you’ve been having a bad day. Your morale is down, you don’t feel like fighting. Seek comfort in company. Surround yourself with positive people. Don’t let “downers” get to you because it’ll just fuel the whole cycle more. Turn to your friends and family. Take your mind off stress. It won’t solve all of your problems, but it would certainly put your mind in a state that would help you take on the challenges before you.

The Solution in Things

If you can’t find good company, try to find good things to do. Why not get a motivational book? Become engrossed in it and learn from it well. You can also listen to good songs with an upbeat tune and words that either calm your mind or make it less pessimistic or problematic. Are you in desperate need of a laugh? You can turn on the television and instead of turning to dramas, try a good sitcom and make your heart feel light. There are so many problems in life, but be positive life isn’t all problems, have time for some fun and laughs every once in a while.

The Solution in You

You can try a lot of things that could help you cope. First, why not keep busy? Find something interesting, learn something new and be the best you can be with it. Since it would be something you love, not only would it keep your mind occupied, but working at it won’t feel like work in a taxing sense. As you get better, you’ll get a phenomenal feeling and the positive thoughts would just flow and flow. If you can’t invest your time in that, you can take a small bit of time to exercise for some time a few days a week. Feeling underappreciated? Reward yourself. Give yourself the break you need. If possible, make it something tangible that can serve as a reminder that you’re doing good.

There are so many problems in life, but be positive. There’s a lot you can do to boost your spirit and get you going again. Happiness is a choice, make it. Take steps towards it and don’t let life’s problems get you down.

Compulsive Thinking Disorder – Fight It!

It happens again and again and again. Your thoughts just seem to revolve around the same things time and time again. It’s consuming you, slowly. You try to sleep but you can’t. There’s a buzzing, a nagging, an annoying voice in your head that won’t give you peace. It haunts you. You can’t get anything done. You know it has to stop. This, my friend, is the manifestation of the compulsive thinking disorder.

I’ll Never Get over It

Getting over the compulsive thinking disorder is a task with difficulty that’s equivalent to its severity. A few worrisome thoughts are acceptable and very much normal. Having thoughts that seem to take over your life however, letting it stop you in your tracks instead of moving steadily forward is highly unhealthy. It’s really bad if you let it drag you to the past and keep you there.

If you really think about it, it would be easy to conquer this disorder. You just really have to want it and you must be willing to commit to beating it because there’s a simple solution that can pose to be very difficult if you go on about it with the ways of a compulsive thinking disorder. What is it? It’s just to focus on positive thoughts and believe in them. Try hard to bring yourself peace. But again, of course, everything’s easier said than done especially with a stubborn attitude born from this disorder.

Oh Yeah? So what’s the Plan?

The best plan you could have to defeat compulsive thinking disorder is to try to kill every negative thought as soon as it comes. When you notice that your thoughts are starting to get sour, go for a positive rebuttal. You can think, “I’m not going to have any fun at the party” then go “but then again my friends are there so it’ll be okay. In fact, it can be more than okay.” It may be hard to do at first from its sheer unfamiliarity and how it’s so opposite to what you’re used to, but like wit all skills, all you need is a bit of practice. Do yourself a favor and don’t lose heart with this one. The more you do it, the easier it gets and the more it’d seem like an automatic reflex.

Beating compulsive thinking disorder is your chance not just to better your mood or yourself as a person, but it can better your life in general. Soon you’d find things looking up your way and that you’re getting to places you want to be in life. Get out of the shadows, see life in a whole new light.

Affirmations are little sentences that we either think or say out loud to ourselves on a repeated basis at certain times throughout the day. Sounds pretty simple and straightforward doesn’t it? Well it is but the affirmations have to be worded correctly and said with the right positive mindset and belief or they will have no effect. The words themselves need to be imbued with real intention and feeling or they won’t be accepted as fact by the all-believing subconscious mind.

So how should we structure our affirmations? They have to be phrased in positive words in order to obtain positive results. If you mix a positive work with a negative one in the same sentence, the subconscious mind will perceive this as a mixed message and will consequently not be able to work out what it means. It may therefore actually interpret it as a negative affirmation rather than a positive one.

As an example take these two sentences:-

“I am not weak anymore”

“I am strong and powerful”

Both these phrases convey the same sentiment on the face of it but the first uses a negative word, creating a mental image of weakness in the mind. This is an example of the wording being wrong, whereas the second sentence is correctly structured. It conveys an image of strength as it contains only positive descriptive words.

As mentioned above, you also have to use all the tricks at your disposal to embed the message you want into your subconscious. This means creating the appropriate visualizations to accompany the affirmations you make, as well as saying  the words with strength of will, having faith in your desired outcome and persistence.

You also need to make sure that the affirmation you chose is something that you are comfortable with otherwise it may not work for you or might result in an undesired outcome. Make sure the words you choose are positive rather than negative and you will be able to let your thoughts build the life you want.

Here are some good positive affirmations:

Day by day I am becoming happier and more satisfied.

Love is filling my life now.

Healing energy is constantly filling every pore of my body.

I always stay calm and in control of myself, in every situation and in all circumstances.

Loving myself heals my life. I nourish my mind, body and soul.

I am my own unique self – special, creative and wonderful.

When I believe in myself, so do others.

I choose to make positive healthy choices for myself.

I trust in the process of life.

Life is a joy filled with delightful surprises.

These are chosen just as examples to get you started and cover different situations. There is no rule about when or how many times you should repeat them. Just be sure to do them every day using the guidelines above, and positive change in your life cannot fail to be the result.

Yesterday wasn’t the worst day I’ve ever had-but it was just like it! Actually it depends on your point of view or, your mindset and attitude.

I came back from a gig (I am a musician as well as a blogger) to find a note from the Fire Brigade telling me that the apartment ustairs had had a burst pipe in their kitchen, soaked through the ceiling , flooded my bedroom and consequently I would need to spend the night elsewhere!

Now much as this was a “surprise”, shall we say, it didn’t send me into a flat spin worrying about the consequences of something that was clearly “just one of those things” and no-ones fault as such. Even if I had been there when it occured, I wouldn’t have been able to do much apart from try to move the bed out of the way of the deluge, which would have been difficult considereing the size of my place.

Once it had all sunk in, if you’ll excuse the pun, I started thinking about what I had to do in light of the situation. Of course it isn’t the end of the world when something like this occurs and I wasn’t about to treat it as such. So I moved a few bits and pieces out of the room, threw all the bedding into the wash, emptied the buckets that the firemen had kindley put there to catch the water and set about contacting my landlord and the folks upstairs about insurance etc.

After I had done these tasks I thought about how this change in circumstances was likely to impact my life. I thought about the damage that had been done to the room and its contents and  how I was going to replace damaged items.I also thought about where I was going to sleep and for how long. Certainly these were fairly immediate problems that needed to be worked out. But rather than start thinking too far ahead and possibly getting myself into negative mindset over it all, I tried to see if there were any positive apsects to this unfortunate situation. There were.

Firstly I could sleep in my living room. Not ideal, but I had bought a new couch with a pull-out bed in it for visitors but had as yet not used. I needed to test it out and this was my opportunity. Not onlythat but I figured it might actually make a nice change to wake up to another view! As the carpet would need to be thrown away and replaced, I wondered how to get  this done cheaply as it may not be covered by the insurance. A buddy of mine is a carpet fitter and said he could do a “mates rates” job on the living room but at the time my landlord wasn’t interested in spending the money. Now he will most likely bite my hand off to get both rooms done together so cheaply. Another plus point.

Lastly, I get the room redecorated and the insurance will cover this. The people upstairs said they would even give me the money for a new mattress. So a bit of inconvenience for sure, but with a calm approach and a positive mindset, a potentially negative situation can be  turned into a positive one with a bit of optimistic thought and a view of the bigger picture long term. It can be done.

Now where’s that mop?

Perhaps the greatest teachers of the art of thinking positively are children-they are the ultimate positive thinkers. They haven’t learned that life throws curve balls and that challenges are around every corner. They see life as a big adventure and it’s this kind of thinking that maybe you should try to adopt.

Think about a child in your life. They seem to have no fear of new things and will try anything once. They love life and are naturally optimistic and happy. They love to explore the world and what life has to offer, putting themselves out there just to learn.

This natural amazement for life is how they learn and how they develop their identity and allows them to live in a positive manner. Children do not jump to the negative because they are wired to believe there is good out there. They do not know about the negative aspects of the world because you shelter them from that.

If you can develop that child-like faith and stop yourself from dwelling on the bad in life, you will be on the way to thinking more positively. Just

slowing down and take time to enjoy life rather filling everyday with to- do’s will soon make it is easier to embrace the positive.

Here are some things that children do that you can bring into your life.

These things will help you to be able to look at the positive instead of the negative.

Explore new things. Instead of walking away from the unknown, walk towards it. Children are always exploring. This is how they learn. Let yourself start exploring again.

Do not walk away from a challenge. When children are met with a challenge, they get excited and look at it as a game. Engage in new challenges instead of walking away.

Make a mess. Children are messy and make messes because they are learning and simply do not care if they get a little messy in the process. Happiness can be messy and unrestricted.

Ignore the rules. Children ignore the rules all the time. Often it gets them into trouble, but many times, they end up having a fun time simply because they are doing something they were specifically told not to do. Defying authority can be an adrenaline rush. Break a few rules now and then and let yourself feel like a kid again.

Pretend. Make believe is a big part of being a child. Almost everything you do revolves around pretending. The imagination is a wonderful thing. Allow yourself to go to some make believe place. Get away for your normal life and pretend you are someone else. Have fun and you are sure to smile.

There are plenty more ways you can use the influence of a child to drive your progress towards a positive attitude. Watch children play. Just see what they do and take notes on how different their lives are from yours. How do they get through the day without stressing about every little thing?

Do not let yourself get hung up on the fact that they do not have responsibility. Responsibility should in no way hold you back from thinking positively. It is just an excuse, and excuses kill the positive mindset you are working so hard to build.

Just focus on being child-like. It will help to free yourself from some of the limiting and negative aspects of being a world-weary adult, and foster a renewed love of life.